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Today I want to share really a critical issue which I came to know. Please read the blog, as it might help you know all about my concern to the topic.

Thank you!

Who are stalkers?

Stalking is like inducing fear, to get all personal details from a victim.

It's repeated boxes of candy, clothing, showing up at your house, putting things through your mail slot, notes on your car even though if you've asked them to stop.

It is defined as  threatening behavior that is engaged in repeatedly.

For a stalker, the whole world is like a forest, and that person is like a hunter, which may or may not harm physically, but it will surely torcher the person mentally, with intention to know all about the person, and then harassing to get confidential information and money from that person.Stalker's Mind

Stalker's Mind

According to the National Center for Victims of Crime, America, 370,000 men are stalked annually -- one in 45 men. More than 1 million women are stalked every year; about one in every 12 women could be stalked in her lifetime.

The stalker is usually an isolated  person, one who lives alone, lacks of any type of intimate relationships like family, friends etc.,
And person may be suffering from "
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (People suffering from this  don’t just have extra self-confidence, they don’t value others’ feelings or ideas and ignore others’ needs and respect. They are only self-lovers, which only know how to fulfill themselves with their fantasies)".

Origin of Stalking:

Many people stalk someone they have only met briefly -- someone they don't really know, or barely know. The stalker may also focus on a celebrity, especially if they've seen him or her in person -- at a public appearance like a concert. They develop convoluted thoughts about this person. They feel this person is the answer to their dreams.

Stalkers write countless letters or emails to their victims, begging for attention. They make repeated phone calls, send gifts, flowers, candies, cards. They secretly follow the victim, either by car or in an insidious way -- by getting access to the victim's email or any personal detail.

Actions that can 

be taken against 

Stalkers:

1. Tell everybody you know (like friends, family and person you trust) that this is going on in your side.

2. Gently, speak to the stalker that you wanted to give up from him/her.  Take as simple as possible, as it could lead to violence with questions like why?.

If any of the step doesn't work, take the legal actions against the person.

Trolling:

It is cyber level of stalking. It's all about discussing/praising/hurting / spreading positive or negative facts in social media like Facebook, WhatsApp etc about particular person without the prior permission.

All this information is really new to me, I wasn't aware of such kind of things, I don't know from where my sister get such information she is really smart, So I am very thankful to her. I have researched  this information (major part) from internet, and in some cases I have putted my logic.

Measures that can be taken from being coming under such:

1. Use of stong password, especially in your banking, social media accounts. Change your password in regular intervals of some weeks or months.

2.  If person start calling, sending unwanted emails immediately after you give them or interact with them.

Just try to know the reasons behind, like are you rich, or for what reasons that person stalks you, try asking the reason from that person in a friendly way.

Can Stalking be positive? If yes, explain.

I don't think there are any positive-sounding ways that the word stalking could be used.

I think most people would agree that the word implies at least a somewhat negative undertone. Although some would disagree(read disagree post in new tab).

The disagree article says:

How Stalkers torcher the perticular for its benifit:

There are many ways the torcher is done, it basically depends on intention and target of the person to the victim.

But several I came through internet are:

1. Ego-fragmentation / Ego-Death

Ego death is a "complete loss of subjective self-identity". 

the synonymous term psychic death is used, which refers to a fundamental transformation of the psyche. In death and rebirth mythology, ego death is a phase of self-surrender and transition.

In this, I think person is forced to surrender its ego, forced to take out herself/himself as a slave, and do what the stalker wants. It is most tragic and highg level of torcher, that I understood.

2. Learned Helplessness

It is related to the concept of self-efficacy (Psychologist Albert Bandura  has defined self-efficacy as one's belief in one's ability to succeed in specific situations or accomplish a task. I think it is widely used in our education system.).

It is a behaviour exhibited by a person (or forced to exhibit) after enduring repeated aversive stimuli beyond their control. 

It make person to behave like a puppet.

[Some of the parts are taken from 'Wikipedia"]

How government uses "Stalking" behaviour without even letting people to know:

As we know government have rights higher than a common person. So, it is natural habit of a human brain to collect more and more personal information to rule the society. The best example for such is Ch*, where everybody is limited to their country and government knows everybody to the extent beyond the government level. It is really setting a good example of stalking people for one's fantasies. However, every ruler wants his/her society to be at the top, but nobody knows how long the wrong ways of approching success is helpful. Yes, it gives a lot of pleasure, but for limited time, and then time turns it's phase with 100× pains in the society.

Our country was also a good example for the same, untill cast and creed systems were followed. But nobody knows how long could that pleasure of ruling others for one's fantasies could exhist, and as a result, we know on what basis our government is divided.

All these are my personal points on the basis of government and stalking.

Thank you!

Stalkers Explanation in a video:

You can watch on "YouTube" too.

My Opinion:

Life is gift of God and Nature. It is our most preferred responsibilty to make sure wheather it is going in right or wrong way.

People are made to love and respect each other and things are made to be used. Why the WORLD is like hell, because it does opposite of it. We tends to use people for our virtual fantasies related to the useless things.

I believe in Karma, What you do will return back to you. So, it's now our choice to wheather to do good things in life for positive impacts in our future or to do worse, and get tension and depressed life.

In my opinion, the BEST person in this world is not that who only knows good things in life. A BEST PERSON is that person who actually knows all good and bad things, and knows the impact of each in life, and thus following it in her/his life.

All my opinions here are mine only, and I have written what is coming in my mind, and not taken from anywhere.

Thank you.

Its Social Concern in technology:

It is really a critical issue nowadays, especially in INDIA is not aware of it.

 Many people tends to use social media, to stalk others activities and following. I was really not aware of it, and it was really going to be a great blind mistake. I say blind mistake because I was really not aware of it and many could be. As such topics are not taught in our school time (I don't know of now, but at my time it was not in syllabus or might be I don't remember). 

It really made me important to read and research about it.

If It was helpful to you, it would be great for me.

Certain real life examples:

1.

2. This is how they manipulate mind

It seems to be funny, but it becomes scary having real person like this.

 3. They give warnings like 

Thank you for reading!

Like my mother loves me, like your mother loves you, there are nobody in this world going to be like that. She is the one who fell in love with you at first sight, even without knowing who you are going to be, she doesn't care. Be with her always.

She will love things, what you love,  what you follow, what are your dreams, she will never intrrupt, but can give you suggestions for your good.  

She may follow you to the school, respects your each step, may stalk you sometime to observe you, to know you how you are doing in outer world. Are you in pain? That thing actually matters the most, she will run behind medicine of that pain keeping you on her nap, will fight for you, might be in her own pain, but never reveals to you, as you are always kid for her. 

She will appreciate you as "good girl/boy" for every new attempt you made. 

She loves to see you growing, and when you fall, she is always there for you. She will act as a shield, from pains and admires you for light side from the dark.

[ All these are written from my side, what comes in my heart and mind]

Now you may know the difference between STALKER and FRIEND. 

Stalkers are made to harm you, Whereas Love is to build you emotionally. 

If someone is doing like her in your life, never leave that person, that person is diamond and once lost, will never return in your life. 

Actually, this is the person you can follow, you can prey for bright life for her/him, just say thank you to that person.

"Trust takes years to build,

A second to break,

and forever to repair".

Don't loose trust from such people.

Have a happy and decent life.

Thank you!

Credits and researched by: KUSHAGRA SINGH
             ACKNOWLEDGEMENT:  Thanks to internet and its applications.